We all have sex work to do

We all have sex work to do.

Some of the hardest conversations people have are about sex and relationships. These conversations are usually very binary: right and wrong, moral and immoral, etc. Even just being gay is still a big debate in most parts of the world. Gay people therefore live in their own separate subculture. Why is this still such a big deal, and what does it say about us? Why do we care? More specifically, how does this affect the world of dating?

We have a relationship problem

Nowadays, marriages break up as quickly as they are made. Figures suggest that singles are not having the most positive experiences with Tinder either.

In addition, people are very busy and looking for strategies to optimize time. At Ohlala, we address both issues, which is why our dates are like no other. We separate people’s time from their expectations: Each date starts with one person making a financial offer for another person’s time. If one person accepts, the fear of rejection and the tension of having to make a decision are eliminated because the expectations were made clear from the beginning. Both parties are aware that the financial transaction has taken place to provide the assurance to exclude such stress. The users are also aware that their conversation is conducted privately under encryption.

This is what Ohlala is about

Placing an investment in a date.
A tool that facilitates connections.
A mobile-optimized website where users get immediate online dates and the intentions are crystal clear.
A real token economy already used by almost 100,000 people.
A mobile-optimized website that moves between online dating apps and escort apps.
Redefining the societal perception of paid dating as something that can be done without stigma.

I’ve always wanted to try a threesome while riding a unicorn

Some application examples

Convenience

Mara is a 27-year-old Scandinavian single mother living in Berlin. She has 3 jobs and little time. She uses a scheduling app to manage her daily routine. Dating is frustrating for her: It’s hard to determine a person’s intentions and reliability, and the number of requests is overwhelming. She wants to optimize her time and find a stress-free dream date.

The fantasy

Michael is a man on a mission: He finally wants to check off the long-awaited threesome from his list. He also wants the girls to be open to role-playing. He uses Ohlala and makes his dream come true.

Role play

Miranda is an artist, dancer, and cosplayer living in London. She values her time and doesn’t want to waste it looking for someone interested in various sexual practices or specific types of role-playing that don’t match hers. She posts a date request with detailed information and gets the fun she’s looking for.

Shy girl

Marcela is a shy Eastern European foreigner living in Vienna. In the past, she repeatedly got involved with men to whom she wasn’t really attracted. With so much choice, it’s just too convenient to choose from the available cohort of admirers. This leads to her getting entangled in short-term relationships that would otherwise not happen. She wants to bypass all that and go straight to her dream man, even if it’s just for one night. She doesn’t want anything serious anyway.

Out of my league

Joana is a Peruvian management consultant working for a top firm in Zurich. She is an attractive woman who has always wanted a toyboy for one night: that incredibly attractive man with the face of an angel and the body of a titan.

What Ohlala can be

We replace cash with so-called “tokens” and a handshake with a smart contract that electronically guarantees consent.

We at Ohlala have been busy examining the current state of dating. Since we operate as a large-scale experiment in mutual consent, we have access to truly unique and invaluable insights. The vast majority of users who set expectations before the meeting report emotional security and positive feelings comparable to the emancipation from expectations. We have enabled over 300,000 such heartwarming stories.

We live in a very traditional and honest country: “Germany”. Yet, in the rest of the world, the picture is quite different: Dishonest behavior is tolerated and seen as “part of the game”, prejudices are praised, and whole social ecosystems are marginalized.

We want to spark a reform in the dating world. We can do it; we have the tools and the knowledge. With the right resources, we can grow by orders of magnitude. We have made the case to justify this growth. We started by asking people a few questions:

What is the current state of dating?
What are good relationships and how do they make us happier?
How the hell can a paid dating website take a leadership position?
How can technology help?
Why should we care?
Why are more people than ever going into sex work?
Is modern dating harmful?
What are the concepts about the human condition that we need to explore?

We don’t judge people for their food preferences

We interviewed experts and experienced adults in many related fields; people of all genders and age groups, well distributed across the political spectrum. We talked to sex workers, relationship scientists, anthropologists, sex educators, teachers, revolutionaries, activists, psychologists, and so on. What is the ultimate expression of sexual freedom? Answers were almost always descriptions of various abstractions of freedom: freedom of choice, freedom of speech, freedom of thought. The lack of such freedoms in the context of our sex lives typically arises when stigma comes into play. And here lies the problem.

We must stop pretending we accept the stigmatized. We can make a leap that is as meaningful and impactful as the abolition of slavery. We need to work on eliminating stigma. But how do we move forward where other studies have stopped?

Stigma: the root causes

It’s the attitude of many that if we find ways to curb the power of stigmatization in society, we are better off. It’s more than a silly concern or a breakdown of communication: It’s sand in the gears of society, and it prevents us from having a real forward momentum. It slows us down.

We assume the stigma problem consists of three parts:

Love is seen as a contract and people as a commodity.
Sex work has a massive branding problem.
Modern online dating promotes dishonesty.

Root cause No 1: There should be no easy and hard miles

Modern relationships are property concepts. Here, it’s more about addiction than empathy. In this context, people see themselves as assets with a street price and even a trade value. Among the many measurements of a person’s value to another, one that brings much disdain and stigmatization is what a person has done with their own body. In the used car area: There are easy highway miles and hard gravel road miles, and the price changes depend on the road driven. I’ve heard countless stories of men and women breaking off long-term relationships because they learned of a not particularly outstanding sexual past of their partner.

At Ohlala, it’s clear to us that if we want to open up, we must curb our tendency to judge others, and thus the inevitable placement of expectations and disappointments. A practical approach to this tendency could be to create a dating network that works as a means of change by design:

A system that gently encourages people to represent themselves honestly (from their pictures, video clips, clearly defined intentions, etc.).
A system that suggests more practical notions of romantic love as well as some useful alternatives that promote the building of healthy relationships (and families).

Root cause No 2: We need to legitimize sex work

Legitimizing sex work is more than making people into good taxpayers. People who travel this world wade through prejudices. From exotic dancers to dominatrixes, I’ve heard countless stories about this “dark underworld” and how dangerous it is. In other words, the public perception is not exaggerated: Crime, drug abuse, bodily harm, and forced labor are too widespread and make it impossible for the ecosystem to overcome negative perceptions.

The reason this is important is that the consequences of our views on marginalized people trickle down to the lives of everyone.

“It’s the same in prisons around the world: We brand our criminals as soon as the sound of the hammer in the courtroom rings, and they are forever seen as second-class citizens. Surely, this results in horrific recidivism rates.”

Here’s an example of the trickle-down effect: If we all agree to brand a certain behavior as “something a whore would do,” who are we to even claim such a thing when someone decides to label us as such? If the category exists, it’s up to each of us to categorize people into it. It is therefore imperative that we try to completely eliminate the problem. Here are some ways Ohlala will make it possible:

We plan to eliminate transaction, reputation, and consent anxieties. In other words, all involved must operate in an online dating marketplace where transactions are guaranteed, reputation systems are valuable, and mutual consent (and its legal protection) is ensured. This is possible with current microtransaction, cryptography, and decentralized ledger technologies.
We will unite the world of sex work and help it reposition itself. This starts with adopting a self-confident viewpoint. In practice, people in the industry might even be encouraged to try “emotional emancipation” and find ways to promote and protect their class. Another part of this strategy is to inform every new customer about the expected civil manner of interaction. Another will be to form groups of ambassadors who speak on their behalf so that the common narrative can take a sharp turn. For example, we need to eliminate the word “whore” or “slut” or “escort” just as we disapprove of the word “faggot.” This does not mean that we will be an app that promotes certain behaviors in countries where this is illegal; it’s all about educating the entire population.

Root cause No 3: Most lead a dishonest dating life

Dishonesty in dating is widespread. Carefully crafted online personalities are now normal and partly expected. Ohlala’s dating revolution will take a critical look at the platforms, and see how this level of dishonesty manifests itself; in every way the application of outdated societal concepts that lead to a world of pain, just so people get a chance to get someone (while science suggests that apps don’t help either).

It wasn’t always like this. 10 years ago, it was considered a shortcut if someone resorted to online dating. It was a place for losers and other undesirable people. Back then, “the strong” either found ways to connect with people in the real world or at least through Facebook (or Myspace). There was also a world before Instagram: Not many people groomed their appearances.

Another important factor is the actor who initiates contact. In most cultures, men take on this role, which entails the following:

The party initiating contact fears rejection much more and wants to avoid it at all costs. The result is men trying to manipulate situations to achieve a positive outcome, regardless of the emotional well-being of their counterpart. It also means that men try carpet bombing, which is executed randomly.
On the female side of things, similarly dishonest behavior occurs: Even if they want a simple sexual encounter, they fear having too much choice. They wonder, “What if this is the wrong choice?” Worse yet, it’s difficult to know the true intentions of their counterpart. Women also feel let down by friends if behavior outside the norm is confirmed or suspected. The “whore issue” is all too real.

Both men and women end up worrying about whether the right choice was made or not. Studies even suggest that users of certain apps have lower self-esteem than average, and people report being unhappy and that there’s a better way, just a swipe away. The latter even has a name: cushioning.

The causes of this behavior are complex. Here are some examples:

Platforms promote notions of romantic love and set Hollywood expectations of what love is and how people should behave in such arrangements. These are highly the result of data-driven strategies and qualitative research.
Swipe functions are convenient, but they take the fear of rejection to a whole new level. A man swiping right screams, “Please give it to me.” A woman swiping left screams: How can I make an enlightened decision?
External societal factors have a significant influence on people’s perception and behavior in online systems. There’s an obsession with physical parameters, distorted standards of attractiveness (instead of personal notions of attractiveness), and biased views on what proper behavior for different genders is, to name just a few examples.

This results in, for example:

Men more likely to lie about their true intentions.
Women more likely to conceal their desire for simple sexual contacts.
Loneliness and depression are linked to systems that promote “sexual inequality.”

Sex work is crucial

It’s clear to us at Ohlala that one of the most important components of human well-being, the freedom of sexual self-expression, carries an unnecessarily heavy burden. It’s too easy for us to measure a person’s value based on stupid data points, such as preferred sexual acts. In fact, it’s a “social crime” to talk about some of them, let alone let go.

The Dating Education Foundation

Mr. Altmaier at this year’s Noah Conference in Berlin, unknowingly supporting our Ohlala campaign. Should we ask him if he’s on board? – #iamonboard

The dating reform demands that we replace our conversations with better ones. It also requires us to think about the practical application of strategies where the development of human sexuality is at the forefront and adapted to various social contexts.

We are proud to have started a movement. As insiders, we have developed a deep respect for the human situation that allows us to dream big, rather than just carrying the heavy burden of prejudice. Ohlala’s ICO is the first step of our executive to offer these practical strategies to a wider audience.

The main goal of the ICO is to establish the Dating Education Foundation. Its aim is to expand our paid dating revolution worldwide, albeit with a renewed sense of purpose driven by numbers and our desire to maximize human well-being. In short, this is what we will do:

Set new principles and build a new world of dating on them. These principles force us to rethink our notions of love and why the current system breaks us all.
Make sex a natural topic of conversation, just like food, exercise, and work.

A completely new kind of dating

The two goals mentioned above are our revolution, supported by a new understanding of human sexuality and its relationship to prejudices and how these are created by all of us.

Guaranteed financial transactions

People pay sex workers in cash, in advance, although there must be exceptions. For at the moment cash changes hands, exactly 2 things happen: Stigma tells the payer, “I shouldn’t really be paying for this because it’s wrong,” and because expectations may not have been communicated very well, this could lead to disappointment and disagreements over the value of the experience.

To change this, we need to enter the world of electronic wallets. Some are already doing it, but there are still agencies involved and there are few legal instruments that hold both parties accountable for fulfilling their contractual obligations. Moreover, it is important to ensure that it is a private transaction, without losing the right to legal recourse. Until we eliminate stigma, this privacy is essential.

Here’s how it would work:

An experience is requested and a price is set for it.
A so-called token is generated for this transaction.
A payment order is created by the system. Tokens are held in escrow.
The experience is completed.
Payment completion is requested by the payee and confirmed by the payer -If payment is disputed, arbitration takes place.
The transaction logs are removed from Ohlala’s DLT, but can remain on people’s phones if desired.

The aim is to suggest to the parties involved to take responsibility for their part of the transaction. They need to take a close look at what they promised and work to fulfill it. Very often, people who purchase such services behave badly, while people who offer services lie and threaten. Most of us don’t do that when we get a manicure, but as soon as sex comes into play, all sorts of bad stuff becomes more likely. Fixing this will be the result of a system that helps the user to empower himself and take on his role in this system.

Improved reputation/karma systems

One of the biggest changes in person-to-person commerce today is the feedback and reputation loop we see on websites from eBay to Twitter. The reputation of people deciding to participate in the activity can be a decisive factor in decision-making within the system. This means that a person’s history of positive behavior can be used as a signal that the person is generally considered safe. A good reputation is the key to dealing with the best counterparties and generating trust. Reputation can include many other aspects than mere “safety”:

To signal whether a user has a high probability of payment.
To signal their “fantasies” to others and receive confirmation of their abilities from like-minded people.
Confirmation of intent.

This is done with a second token, which is effectively a point and weight system. It would have the following properties:

It is separate from the main financial token.
It can be made private in whole or in part by users.
It can – ideally – be transferred to any other system. This privately created report on a person’s “reputable” behavior can be used by systems that interpret these data as reliable.

One thing it is not: A naughtiness rating or a surveillance system. It is also not measured in numbers. It works in the background and marks users who do not meet certain criteria. If a user decides to be rated for something, it is up to them to request and publish it.

Modern encryption allows the capture of information about a person and their desires and abilities while preserving the identity of all parties involved, the community, and even Ohlala itself.

Electronic consent

Consent, which in the world of sex work is a verbal agreement with little legal protection, can automatically become a legally valid contract when all consenting adults electronically sign it by simply clicking “Agree.” This happens fully automatically. The system recognizes the user’s intentions with speech recognition software and prepares a smart contract.

Here’s how it would work:

We all have sex work to do.

A group of sex workers

We all have sex work to do.

We have a relationship problem

Nowadays, marriages break up as quickly as they are made. Figures suggest that singles are not having the most positive experiences with Tinder either.

This is what Ohlala is about

Placing an investment in a date.
A tool that facilitates connections.
A mobile-optimized website where users get immediate online dates and the intentions are crystal clear.
A real token economy already used by almost 100,000 people.
A mobile-optimized website that moves between online dating apps and escort apps.
Redefining the societal perception of paid dating as something that can be done without stigma. I’ve always wanted to try a threesome while riding a unicorn

Some application examples Convenience

We replace cash with so-called “tokens” and a handshake with a smart contract that electronically guarantees consent.

What is the current state of dating?
What are good relationships and how do they make us happier?
How the hell can a paid dating website take a leadership position?
How can technology help?
Why should we care?
Why are more people than ever going into sex work?
Is modern dating harmful?
What are the concepts about the human condition that we need to explore? We don’t judge people for their food preferences

Stigma: the root causes

We assume the stigma problem consists of three parts:

Love is seen as a contract and people as a commodity.
Sex work has a massive branding problem.
Modern online dating promotes dishonesty.

Root cause No 1: There should be no easy and hard miles YouTube

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A system that gently encourages people to represent themselves honestly (from their pictures, video clips, clearly defined intentions, etc.).
A system that suggests more practical notions of romantic love as well as some useful alternatives that promote the building of healthy relationships (and families). Root cause No 2: We need to legitimize sex work Dreams become reality

The reason this is important is that the consequences of our views on marginalized people trickle down to the lives of everyone.

Here’s an example of the trickle-down effect: If we all agree to brand a certain behavior as “something a whore would do,” who are we to even claim such a thing when someone decides to label us as such? If the category exists, it’s up to each of us to categorize people into it. It is therefore imperative that we try to completely eliminate the problem. Here are some ways Ohlala will make it possible:

We plan to eliminate transaction, reputation, and consent anxieties. In other words, all involved must operate in an online dating marketplace where transactions are guaranteed, reputation systems are valuable, and mutual consent (and its legal protection) is ensured. This is possible with current microtransaction, cryptography, and decentralized ledger technologies.
We will unite the world of sex work and help it reposition itself. This starts with adopting a self-confident viewpoint. In practice, people in the industry might even be encouraged to try “emotional emancipation” and find ways to promote and protect their class. Another part of this strategy is to inform every new customer about the expected civil manner of interaction. Another will be to form groups of ambassadors who speak on their behalf so that the common narrative can take a sharp turn. For example, we need to eliminate the word “whore” or “slut” or “escort” just as we disapprove of the word “faggot.” This does not mean that we will be an app that promotes certain behaviors in countries where this is illegal; it’s all about educating the entire population. Root cause No 3: Most lead a dishonest dating life Source

Another important factor is the actor who initiates contact. In most cultures, men take on this role, which entails the following:

The party initiating contact fears rejection much more and wants to avoid it at all costs. The result is men trying to manipulate situations to achieve a positive outcome, regardless of the emotional well-being of their counterpart. It also means that men try carpet bombing, which is executed randomly.
On the female side of things, similarly dishonest behavior occurs: Even if they want a simple sexual encounter, they fear having too much choice. They wonder, “What if this is the wrong choice?” Worse yet, it’s difficult to know the true intentions of their counterpart. Women also feel let down by friends if behavior outside the norm is confirmed or suspected. The “whore issue” is all too real.

The causes of this behavior are complex. Here are some examples:

Platforms promote notions of romantic love and set Hollywood expectations of what love is and how people should behave in such arrangements. These are highly the result of data-driven strategies and qualitative research.
Swipe functions are convenient, but they take the fear of rejection to a whole new level. A man swiping right screams, “Please give it to me.” A woman swiping left screams: How can I make an enlightened decision?
External societal factors have a significant influence on people’s perception and behavior in online systems. There’s an obsession with physical parameters, distorted standards of attractiveness (instead of personal notions of attractiveness), and biased views on what proper behavior for different genders is, to name just a few examples.

This results in, for example:

Men more likely to lie about their true intentions.
Women more likely to conceal their desire for simple sexual contacts.
Loneliness and depression are linked to systems that promote “sexual inequality.” Sex work is crucial

By allowing sex to work its mysterious ways, we would become independent of it. It could and should be treated as something as simple as meditation, healthy eating, or running. Right now, it’s not the deeply effective gift of nature that it could be. We need to work together if we want to overcome that. The Dating Education Foundation Mr. Altmaier at this year’s Noah Conference in Berlin, unknowingly supporting our Ohlala campaign. Should we ask him if he’s on board? – #iamonboard

Set new principles and build a new world of dating on them. These principles force us to rethink our notions of love and why the current system breaks us all.
Make sex a natural topic of conversation, just like food, exercise, and work. A completely new kind of dating

The two goals mentioned above are our revolution, supported by a new understanding of human sexuality and its relationship to prejudices and how these are created by all of us.

Guaranteed financial transactions

Here’s how it would work:

vbnetCopy codeAn experience is requested and a price is set for it.
A so-called token is generated for this transaction.
A payment order is created by the system. Tokens are held in escrow.
The experience is completed.
Payment completion is requested by the payee and confirmed by the payer -If payment is disputed, arbitration takes place.
The transaction logs are removed from Ohlala's DLT, but can remain on people's phones if desired.

To signal whether a user has a high probability of payment.
To signal their “fantasies” to others and receive confirmation of their abilities from like-minded people.
Confirmation of intent.

This is done with a second token, which is effectively a point and weight system. It would have the following properties:

It is separate from the main financial token.
It can be made private in whole or in part by users.
It can – ideally – be transferred to any other system. This privately created report on a person’s “reputable” behavior can be used by systems that interpret these data as reliable.

Modern encryption allows the capture of information about a person and their desires and abilities while preserving the identity of all parties involved, the community, and even Ohlala itself. Electronic consent

Here’s how it would work:

The user places a date request.
Request is accepted.
A private chat follows in which the user describes his wishes. The data does not remain on Ohlala's servers.
The user providing the services confirms the intention to comply. A risk profile analysis is conducted:
– Identity protection
– Fraud detection
A so-called smart contract is electronically created with agreed hypotheses and allocated times.
Users can access their contracts at any time. The user can choose to store contracts exclusively on his phone.
Disputes can be submitted to arbitration, with the arbitrator having evidence of the nature of the request/question available.

The workers will pay their taxes

The global sex trade is huge and the government is not taking in any tax money from it. The bureaucrats want to legitimize the system in almost a funny way and have not succeeded so far.

Ohlala wants to bring the legitimacy of this trade to a whole new level with decentralized ledger technology, especially with governments that should know better but ultimately make things even worse. A set percentage of all transactions would automatically go into the treasury, without the need for disclosure. In other words, people don’t have to register as sex workers to have the privilege of being a taxpayer.

Further details:

State funds are managed and invested in trust.
The transactions follow the tax code of the country.
In some countries, we need to raise awareness and destigmatize paid dates before it’s even possible to pay taxes. Here we take some of the fee and use it to generate awareness, to influence and to change the law so that consensual paid dating becomes a lawful activity. Our goal is for all people who enable paid dates to be part of the mainstream social system worldwide.

The workers can retire.

People often have no chance to invest much of it: Too often, a lot goes into lifestyle purchases – or worse yet – to silent partners.
When it comes to social security, that’s another matter. People should not have to rely on handouts because of state-sponsored prejudices. We need to advocate for an appropriate state-sponsored pension fund for the industry worldwide. Since workers are already using crypto markets, it makes sense to run a private crypto pension fund that works like the funds of police and firefighters, but with bots making crypto investments. This could be done as follows:

We would establish the “World Sex Work Retirement Fund.”
Sex workers from everywhere can choose to deposit part of their income into their own savings account.
People from less privileged societies should receive special conditions to compensate for low HDIs. In other words, we should be able to at least financially retire a person living in Sub-Saharan Africa.
Trading with bots automatically creates wealth with the help of experts.
Users can withdraw their investment at any time and set rules for management if they wish.

A new dating ethos

Dating would be much easier if we could be more honest with our intentions. Ohlala is already neutral and agnostic: It enforces no notions of romantic love or other specific expectations, nor does it force the user to define himself as an answer to an eternal questionnaire.

There’s room for good old romantic monogamy in the world. Just expect less.

Ohlala also promotes radical honesty by encouraging users to present their true selves and not to emphasize superficial representations like excessive sexualization or unnecessary nudity. I’m not saying a user can’t show his nipples and it’s not our job to censor behavior; I’m saying that Ohlala is not the place for free pornography and online masturbation. We want to meet in real life and create exciting experiences that liberate us.

The new dating ethos has freedom as its main goal and this is how we can achieve it:

We need a confirmation of intent. If a user has been honest in the past, he could choose to spread these data and help the consenting to make well-informed and conscious decisions.
We need more ways to show our true selves. We believe profile pictures should rather be videos, as these make it easier for people to share a satisfying level of emotional and physical intimacy. It involves facial expressions and tone of voice, which are strong factors.

“With so much stigma still attached to so many things on the spectrum of sexual desire and these behaviors being fulfilled by only a fraction of people willing to be paid for it, it’s no wonder our society is constantly stuck in this cycle.”

A new dating scene where everyone is welcome

*People are already paying for their dates*

On our platform, the entire spectrum of “adult sexuality” should be present. That means it should be possible in a world where we accept people as they are, to find the love of their life or pay for a crazy night with a couple of wild twins, all from the same platform.

Here’s what I see:

Sex workers:

Gather in local associations and organize themselves into solid political structures to have a stronger voice.
They learn a new “sex work positive” brand and design language. It’s not about making it look luxurious – that wouldn’t help: It’s about making it normal. It’s about sex workers coming out as what they already are: sexy therapists. It’s also about them taking responsibility for their role as educators.
Moreover, they can participate in sex worker pension funds in cities with the corresponding demand.

Kink, fetish & fantasies

People with various fetishes find themselves in a safer environment with less room for failed expectations.
People with more extreme inclinations can rate each other if they choose and “advertise” how good they are at what they like to do.
Users can receive suggestions (matchmaking) from our system and have the option to be introduced to other users.

” The gas station attendant was on the phone when I was in line. She hung up as people played pranks on her, calling and telling her how they imagined raping her.”

Ordinary dates

Anyone interested in dates, for whatever reasons, including long-term monogamy.

Men and women should be able to make contact without fearing reprisals. Ohlala’s system will also be designed to limit the success of “copy and paste” mass date requests.
No false expectations. People should be able to admit their desires and act at will without false premises.
Ohlala introduces: Similar to a business pitch, you get the chance to show your best side without being paralyzed by fear. Men and women should have the opportunity to go out with someone they normally wouldn’t ask by simply offering a cash payment or an equivalent donation to their charity. Donations for getting laid – sounds like fun and our study shows there seems to be a market for it.

The idea, of course, is not only to get people to experience a whole world of sexuality and possibilities, but also to expose themselves to the concept of exploring something new. If there’s one thing I’ve learned from Couchsurfing, it’s how it fosters empathy.

The Ohlala Foundation

The Dating Education Foundation will have three main pillars.

The Sexual Education Foundation
The Dating Enlightenment Foundation
The Future Family Foundation

The plan lays out these foundations and their respective operating instructions. It also allows those who have a proof of eligibility to form local groups and run their own businesses, just as a church is able to operate independently. Once they reach a certain level, they could be eligible to receive tokens and officially promote healthy human relationships according to their regional context.

The Sexual Education Foundation

The idea is to create a world where people with a lot of experience on a topic can share their knowledge instead of being stigmatized for being good at something. In other words, if a person has had sex with thousands of people, they have some really good tips for us as average people.

Imagine a world with bored couples getting tips from professional sex workers and in exchange, sex workers get tips on child-rearing. Here are a few more things we can do:

Invest millions in global sex work conferences called “World Sex Work Forum”. Maybe we should call it the “WTF Conference”.
Create an army of Ohlala ambassadors who promote our visions and educate people.
Transform the sex work ecosystem (with their direct involvement) into something healthier and free it from the unintended consequences of stigmatization.

“Who wants to focus must masturbate”

The Dating Enlightenment Foundation

Dating needs continuous reforms and the intended purpose of the Dating Education Foundation is to enable better intimate relationships from the first day to a life in retirement with their better halves. It will deal with Ohlala’s history of proven positive changes and help promote these in societies that take a little longer to catch up. Some of the things our foundation will do:

Promote a healthier sex life.
Promote healthier relationships.
Help people date whoever they want.
Emancipate people from perceptions that do not maximize human well-being.
Fund a research program focused on the future of dating.

“I’ve slept with hundreds of men and I’ve never felt like I wasn’t in a position of power. That’s the result of my ability to make healthy sexual agreements with people where both sides fulfill their desires.”

The Future Family Foundation

The family has changed and the days of the extended family are long gone for most of us. Not only are countries struggling to keep their populations stable: We expect people to move out as soon as they wake up from their hangover on their 18th birthday. We can move wherever we want, and many of us do.

So, a combination of factors makes it less likely for people to want to have children, and the good old security of the extended family is gone. This also makes raising children more difficult: no siblings, grandparents living far away, and no weekend visits with the family.

Moreover, gay men complain that it’s easy to get laid but hard to find relationships (the opposite is true for heterosexuals). They want to start families, but it seems somehow difficult. It’s one thing to be rejected by women or friends, and it’s another thing when society portrays you as a monster.

We want people to lead happier lives, and we believe the family is an important factor in that. If families are changing so rapidly, what can we do to help people lead a healthy family life? Even better, is it possible to lead such a life while retaining some of the freedoms from their single life?

Here are some of the things we can work on:

Promoting alternative family arrangements and room for bias-free experimentation.
Promoting a healthier understanding of aging and combating ageism.
Promoting city layouts that improve interaction between families.
Taking on the challenge of formalizing family arrangements with the governments of the world.
Improving family structures for marginalized groups like homosexuals.

“People who want to experiment with new family structures can privately try out innovative forms of adult life. For example, with the average family size, it’s harder than ever to raise children in modern cities, and few have the protection of an extended family.”

The OLA Tokens/Value Marks

Ohlala.com has a working token economy. The most logical and technologically reassuring step we can take is to build a decentralized ledger. We plan to use Stellar Lumens as the transaction layer and add a variety of features. By combining the universal utility of a transaction and a reputation layer, we will become a social protocol.

To achieve our big goals, we want to be independent of external financial systems. That’s why it’s important for financial transactions to take place within a closed system.

The user experience changes fundamentally: We replace cash with tokens and a handshake with a smart contract that electronically guarantees consent.

The tokens have three main functions:

Internal financial transactions

Users can unlock chats.
Users can pay for private services.
Users can donate to charity.

External financial transactions

Buying goods from partner parallel networks like VOD, accessories & clothing, tickets.

Reputation economy

Vouching.
The reliability of the platform.
Risk assessment.

The transaction layer

Standard KYC checks are conducted and depend on the user’s jurisdiction.
The user buys OLA tokens either with cash or one of the major cryptocurrencies. This is done in one of the following ways: To execute the transaction, a partner transfer/exchange network is used. This partner has a banking license and the user’s bank account is connected to us via this third party. -Users can buy tokens directly from the platform.
After various considerations including risk and reputation checks, a “smart contract” is generated. This is done privately, without sharing information with Ohlala. Agreed financial figures are stated.

The contract contains at least the following information:

KYC and AML data of the user
Historical reputation ratings of the users
Current transaction chat history
Agreed financial figures

The funds flow into a temporary escrow account created specifically for this transaction. This includes the creation of a “multi-signature account” included in Stellar.

Once the transaction is considered successful by both parties, the funds are transferred from the escrow company to the receiving party. If a dispute is necessary, the necessary steps are taken.

The user can exchange his tokens for regular currency in one of the following ways:

With our partner crypto exchange.
Immediately and directly to a person’s bank account in approved countries, via partners.

The reputation economy

OLA token holders also receive the privilege of participating in Ohlala’s reputation economy. For every token purchased, users receive points in a grade and weight system. These points can be used to interact with other users within and outside the network in various ways. Here are some examples:

Vouching

A person can choose to make their personal skills publicly known. The user receives points for the confirmation of these skills by their peers. This is especially interesting for people with special interests and fantasies.

Reliability on the platform

The payment capability of a person.
The ability of a person to fulfill their contractual obligations.
The ability of a person to be honest.

Risk assessment

If the person is who they claim to be.
The ability of a person to agree.

Parallel network transactions

The reputation layer is queryable via API if users grant access. Here are some possible use cases:

A network needs to be charged with initial trust, issuing its own trust tokens based on Ohlala’s reputation tokens.
A person’s success story in past relationships is important and has sexual, social, financial, and emotional factors. These data can be compiled with the user’s consent and made available to third parties.

The involved people

Me, someone who wants to live in a world of digital consent where interactions between people are fundamentally based on truth.
Leonardo da Silveira, co-founder of Couchsurfing, loves the idea because it emancipates people. He sees the liberation from dating anxiety as an important step for our society.
Dr. Torsten Stüber, co-founder of Ohlala, sees it as the perfect use case for secure microtransactions based on distributed ledgers
Want to join? Contact [email protected].

Planned use of ICO funds

We want to achieve so much and here’s a taste:

Creating the world’s first socially responsible dating network that takes care of our dating problem once and for all. This means developing web and native apps with DLT support: -A tradable microtransaction token, -secondary reputation token, -one-time currencies created for each individual “pairing
Be profitable, albeit with a mission that goes beyond profit. Comparatively like Red Bull: an adventure sports company that sells carbonated drinks to sustain itself.
Proper community management sets the bar higher and keeps it high
Roll out the system to the entire spectrum of gender and sexual preferences.
Creating great sex education apps. Service providers educate their customers, individuals educate themselves.
Make our 3 foundations a reality.
Introduce our product worldwide: find out where the demand is and take the path of least resistance, from a legal and political perspective.
Go to the following markets (more or less in this order): All of Germany, Austria, Switzerland, France, Great Britain, Spain, Italy, Belgium, Netherlands, Denmark, Greece, Canada, New Zealand, Brazil, and the United States (the latter when they get it)
Machine-learned matchmaking: Using image recognition software to determine a person’s attractiveness to another person, using machine reading to understand people’s intentions and thus automatically build their reputation (of course by consensus), and building a vouching mechanism that works. For example, if a person claims to be a master dominatrix, the proof of her ability to do so is in the hands of her customers.

We all have sex work to do

We must imagine a prejudice-free world if we want to expect more from each other. Can we imagine a society where a woman doesn’t have to go through hundreds of dating requests from strangers and has no idea who is honest? Can we imagine a world where men or women don’t have to lie to fulfill their desires? Can we live side by side with those who choose to make a living entertaining others? Can we live in a world where we get honest representations of each other in data and are given this opportunity by simply making a charitable donation to the charity of choice? Maybe a donation to a foundation for sexual education to meet the love of your life?

We all have sex work to do. We need to work on our views of love and sex if we want to live happier and more fulfilled lives. We need to help emancipate those who are currently and unnecessarily on the fringes of our social fabric. The Ohlala ICO wants to free us from this burden, be numerically stronger, and have an active voice that never has to speak of sex with prejudice again.

It’s easy to support us.

We want sex workers, porn stars, advocates of sexual positivity, and everyone who wants to help us lead this conversation and make it a reality. If you know one, contact us!
Share your dating and sex stigma stories: #openup
We want to connect with politicians, activists, and scientists who want to help.
We want to talk to the people at Apple so we can get our app in the Appstore. Do you know someone?
We want researchers in the field of human sexuality, desire, and relationships to come together.
We will regularly have video podcasts with supporters on our channel. Sign up!

Want to hear from us? Ideas?

Sign up for updates at ico.ohlala.com.
Contact me directly: [email protected]

*All people behind these quotes belong to the “descent civil society” and sadly cannot come out as supporting this. Sad isn’t it?

#wetoo #openup